There are many of us that have gone through mentally challenging times in our lives, and the memory of these times can be carried with us during each day. These experiences can cause anxiety and stress to permeate the various parts of our lives, causing our past to corrupt our present.
But it doesn’t have to be like that, we don’t have to let where we have come from ruin where we are now. So many people act as if they are still in a bad situation which they have been delivered from, still going on and on about it, talking about how other people couldn’t possibly understand the trauma and the tyrrany they went through. Some experiences that people have gone through will need specialist support allow them to move on and move forward and can be hard to do. What I am talking about is the other bad situations that don’t required specialist support, they just need the person to move on.
The problem is that people will treat you differently depending on how you present yourself, and if you are nothing but negative you might not be invited to that event or hired for that job or asked out on a date, because you are living as if you were still in a past situation. This is one of the ways that people let their past ruin their present.
It is better to put on a fresh attitude, to drop the issues of the past and be positive about the here and now. If you spend your time focused on the past you will miss opportunity after opportunity in the present. Our attitude to our circumstances is the barometer of how others view us, either positively or negatively. What we ideally need to try and do is to be positive about our present circumstances and to leave the past in the past. This can be hard to do sometimes depending on the severity of the circumstances we have been in.
I do think that some people like to have a moan, as a way of getting attention. This is the wrong kind of attention, in terms of building positive relationships. Our relationships are the framework of our lives, they interlink our family life with our friendships with our work life with our hobbies, etc etc. It is our human connections that largely encourage the happiness in our lives, along with how we view these relationships. If those we care about and those we meet for the first time only see the negativity we are emitting then they may well not want to spend time with us or connect with us. Choosing to moan about the negative can be detrimental to our relationships, which is in turn bad for us.
We are only human, as the saying goes when we refer to our frailties, but we also must take responsibility for how we think, speak and act. If there is an option of being positive or being negative, and there often is a choice if we take a look, then being positive will always be the better option. The more we make the choice to be positive the more it will become a habit, and the old mental pathways connected to our previous negative circumstances get replaced with better mental pathways, better mental habits.
Have you ever felt a shift of positive change happen in your life when you left bad circumstances in the past and focused on the positive circumstances in the present?
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