Everything in life is a result of causes and conditions, whether these be man made or simply the circumstances we find ourselves in. The thing to do is to try and understand the causes and conditions so we can improve our situation, whatever it is.
There are many different points of view on how to understand causes and conditions, religious, philosophical and scientific. In my view, when there is an agreement between these three areas of human understanding, the truth becomes available.
You may follow a particular way of thinking or a particular religion, and this should always be your first port of call, but it is important to be open to the ideas from other points of view. If we understand why we are in the situation we are in we can find a clearer way forward and we can live a better life.
Also, when people behave badly towards us, we can try to understand the causes and conditions that influenced the way they are behaving, which then opens up the possibility of treating them with compassion. Even if someone is angry, to be angry is to suffer. Meeting anger with compassion often turns their anger into the emotion behind the anger; sadness, frustration or confusion for example. This opens a door to help them and resolve the situation peacefully.
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