Whenever we begin a new year there is pressure to set new goals around health, finance and personal development. Very rarely do these goals continue to be worked on beyond the first quarter of the year. We rationalise ourselves out of them until they fall by the wayside.
The problem is that we all have an unconscious set of beliefs that unconsciously run our lives. Where possible our brains automate things, so the familiar becomes a habit and then it becomes automatic. We do the same things because we always have and our brains tell us to, and then we get the same results.
To change the results in our lives we need to figure out what negative beliefs we have and work on replacing them with better, more effective ones. Negative beliefs about ourselves often come from trauma where the brain comes up with a story to explain what has happened and then turns it into a belief as a self protection mechanism.
One of mine is that I am not capable because in a previous role working with special needs children I made a decision that resulted in being assaulted to the point where I had concussion. My brain interpreted that as ‘making decision and taking responsibility is dangerous ‘ because I am not capable of making good decisions. This is not true but my brain believed it.
I am working on replacing that belief with the phrase ‘I am always capable’. Obviously this will not always be the case but your subconscious believed what it is told, whether consciously or unconsciously. Adding ‘always’ makes it effective.
What unconscious beliefs are holding you back and what can you replace them with?
Make it your new years resolution to find these negative unconscious beliefs and rewire them. Then set your goals.
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