Divided By Devices

I walked into a small Subway on a retail park the other day to find a small wall covering the glass that housed the various fillings for the sandwiches that you can buy in front of which were three touch screens for ordering your food and drinks with card machines next to each one to pay for your order.

There were two staff working away and paying next to no attention to me. They had Bluetooth headphones in and were concentrating on their work behind the counter. There was not so much as a hello. I ordered the food and drinks for me and my family and sat down. The only interaction I had with a staff member was one of them telling me my food was ready, which had been left by the unused till for me to collect.

I was in shock at the lack of interaction, which to me is central to good customer service. While sitting waiting for my order I was reminded of watching three people at work in the cafeteria area sat around a table, each looking at their mobile phone and not talking to each other. They were all in their early twenties. I’m in my forties so I remember life before the internet and mobile phones, so this seemed really strange to me. However, I appreciate that it is normal now.

I am aware that businesses like Subway and McDonalds have moved to touch screens for placing orders for the purposes of efficiency and saving money, as you need less staff, and the infinite scroll has made mobile phones into addictive slot machines where you pull down and win another hit of dopamine, but for all this use of devices in the absence of interaction exists because we have given permission to society by accepting it as normal.

The thing is, we are a social species and to our brains it is not normal to use devices in the absence of human interaction and it breads isolation, loneliness and the inability to start and hold a conversation. My generation fumbled our way through learning how to converse with each other but those in their mid-twenties and younger have not had that because it is easier to hide behind a mobile phone.

Conversing with another human being is a skill that seems to be lost and when we don’t look each other in the eye we become divided. We lose the sense that we are more alike than we are different. We all need to go on a diet from our devices and talk to each other, learn from each other, laugh with each other and cry with each other. We need community.

Are We Addicted To Our Mobile Phones?

“Gadgets helps the solo, not the soul.” 
― Amit Kalantri,Wealth of Words

Witnessing Addiction to Mobile Phones

Recently, standing on the platform of a tram stop waiting for my tram, I saw a lady walking along, headphones in her ears, watching a video on her mobile phone and hardly even looking ahead of her as she walked. My mind was filled with thoughts around how human beings have become slaves to our mobile devices, how we have become a society who craves instant gratification and how addicted we all are. Then, another lady walked passed a moment later holding up a book she was engrossed in as she too walked along the platform.

This stark contrast is only really a contrast in the source of their attention, rather than the activity they were engaged in.  It begs the question, are we missing life by becoming regularly absorbed by activities that do not promote good mental and physical well-being. In our western society, to get drunk and the morning after not remember what we did the night before is lorded as almost a badge of honour. To binge watch whole series of a program on our preferred online streaming platform is a common occurrence too.

Are We Zombies?

It seems we are losing the ability to just be, to be aware of what we are doing when we are doing it. Our search for activities that give us quick wins, and as a result, hits of addictive Dopamine, is turning us into zombies, of sorts. I say this as a fellow zombie, but seeing a lady walking along a tram platform watching something on her mobile, and not able to wait until she was at home or somewhere else more appropriate, and safer, woke me up to the realities of our current quick fix culture.

These observations also beg the age old question of how we should live. Should we follow the crowd and become absent from the world while we stare into our mobile devices, or is there a better way to live. There is some merit for living without the constant availability of entertainment. I am not sure I could do it, but will try to cut back on how much I watch things on my mobile phone.

There is also the question of what we watch. If we watch lectures on the merits of theological or philosophical positions, or we watch instruction videos to help us do yoga or learn a new skill or something else that improves our lives, is this not a good thing? I suppose mobile devices, and by extension social media, are tools that can be used to make our lives, and the world better, or they can be used to simply waste time, which we cannot get back. Time is a currency that can never be bought back. I use Facebook to try and create a community as an extension of this blog, to try and get people to help each other live well. Even social media can be a beneficial in our lives.

The answer to the question of how we should live, I would suggest, trying the improve the lives of others, to help others find meaning and to be happy, and if this means we use mobile devices and social media to achieve this, then I am all for it.

Something to reflect on:

If we let the things we watch, mobile devices and social media dictate our thoughts and actions, then we must ask are they in charge of our lives?